As you think about developing a sustainable discipleship strategy for your men, here are five principles to keep in mind:
- Long Term, Low Pressure. It takes a long time to make a disciple. We must give men permission to stand around the rim of what we are doing and observe. Men come along at different speeds. Give them permission to buy in at their own pace, and allow them to come on board at their own level of involvement.
- Show Men Christ Versus Fix Their Behavior. Once a man at our outreach Bible study received Christ, but he was slow to let Christ influence some aspects of his behavior. One leader suggested we get a group of men to take this fellow to lunch and confront him on his behavior. But after some discussion, we agreed that we should show him Christ rather than just focusing on his behavior. We can point men to Christ, but the Holy Spirit must change their lives. That’s why we say, Christianity is not about behavior modification, it’s about heart transformation.
- Relationship Based Versus Task Oriented. The foundation of successful men’s ministry is building relationships. Without real and deep relationships, men will feel no sense of community with one another. If we only call men together to “do” there will be no glue to hold them together when the planned event is over. Events attract men, relationships make them stick.
- Three Goals for Every Man. If you can get a man to do three things, you will make a significant impact on his life:
- Read his Bible daily and eventually begin to journal his thoughts and prayers.
- Join a small group for Bible Study and accountability.
- Engage in personal ministry where he serves out of the overflow of his relationship with Christ and his brothers.
If you want the men of your church to get fired up, then point them to these disciplines.
- Five Responsibilities of Every Man. Every man must be taught that he must take personal responsibility for his own private life in five areas. No one else can or will do these for a man:
- His walk with God
- His relationship with his wife
- His relationship with his children
- His personal finances
- His health